Watching Her Life Flash Before Her: “I Want Her to be Like Me”

first_imgTwo single parents living with one another share a lot of things in common, including the fact that they are lesbians. What many in their communities, churches, social life and work places don’t know about the two women is that they are living together as a couple.For the past five years they have been secretly living as ‘husband and wife’ in a small rented room outside Monrovia, which barely can accommodate two people, let alone an entire family.Mommi, who’s the dominant, masculine one, keeps her hair cut low and feels her lifestyle and preference for women has over the years been a test of time.”I love women and have suffered because of it. Liberians don’t accept this type of fetish and desire that I have for my wife. So we have to try to hide it the best way we can,” she shrugged.What confuses many of their tenants living in the 8-bedroom house that they all share is the fact that these two women do everything together, including taking baths.”Sister, when you love the same sex, you have to counsel them, the people around you, to help them understand why you are the way you are. They need to understand why my wife and I are doing some of the things that we do, together,” Mommi maintained.”They understand why I teach my wife that she should never trust or like a man because men have hurt both of us. And because of this, she trusts me and those around us respect our feelings” she revealed.Because of that trust, Martina, Mommi’s partner, says she finds herself satisfied with her life, which she says has never been this good.”She has put it in my head, her daughters head that we should hate men, that they are no good to us because of many reasons. You pick your own that has happened to you before, either way, all women have suffered behind a man. Our daughter is two years old and we want her not to depend on a man either. Period,” she declared.Meanwhile, I watched a pretty child with carmel skin kick on a football, which seemed to be her favorite toy. When I called the child over to me, she bounced over with aggression and ran past me to pick up a mini sized toy car to play with.”If you see our daughter, she’s already behaving like a boy child. We’re training her to love women, because she will never be hurt by one,” she said confidently.“Watching her grow reminds me of how I was brought up and I want her to be like me in everyway possible,” she added.Martina, who has been unable to have children to date, says as a teen, a man she lived in the house with abused her.”I don’t blame my feeling for women on being raped. But, this man always abused me and there was no one that I could run to and tell. So I grew up with this feeling that my life with a man ever again would be ruined, so I’ve decided to forget about men. I was 18 when I learned how to be with a woman,” she revealed.According to Mommi, who says she gave birth only to please her wife says she tried to find a normal life, but lives and does everything as a man would.”I wear men’s clothes and I am what you call a stud. And when it comes to the men who see me portraying them, they feel offended at times and humiliate or mock me. But I’m okay with it; I try to block out the rude remarks and evil stares whenever I’m in public places with them,” she added.Meanwhile, the child who has never felt pain, abuse or reason to hate men or dislike them, watches her parents with love. For her, she trusts that every decision her parents make will be for her best interest.“What I have planned for my daughter is already working, she gets excited whenever other women come around her, and frightened when she sees men. That’s the reaction we want from her,” said Mommi.Share this:Click to share on Twitter (Opens in new window)Click to share on Facebook (Opens in new window)last_img read more

Seniors weigh options

first_img AD Quality Auto 360p 720p 1080p Top articles1/5READ MOREWalnut’s Malik Khouzam voted Southern California Boys Athlete of the Week The program marks the first time the federal government is helping all senior citizens pay for prescription drugs and is the largest expansion of the Medicare program since the Johnson administration. But some seniors are having trouble sorting through its complexities. In Los Angeles County, for instance, recipients must choose one of 34 plans, each with its own options. “That’s too many choices,” said Leo Maggio, a senior citizen having lunch at ONEGeneration. “It’s too confusing. If they could make it five or six, that would make sense. Why so many?” Medicare officials say the choices will benefit the 6 million Californians eligible for Medicare by fostering competition among companies competing for the business. “This is not the sort of thing where a government, one-size-fits-all plan is workable,” Medicare spokesman Jack Cheevers said. “People – completely healthy that are taking no drugs at all – may want a plan with no premium and low deductibles. People on a dozen or so drugs, their big concern would be making sure the plan covers all their drugs. LAKE BALBOA – Whenever Mimi Ross hears someone talking about the Medicare prescription-drug program that begins registering recipients today, she can’t help interrupting the conversation. “It’s a ridiculous program,” said Ross, who needs medicine for osteoporosis. “I didn’t have to pay anything before (on Medi-Cal), and now I’m going to have to pay. You have to find a pharmacy near you that takes your plan. It’s ridiculous.” Ross shook her head and looked at her tray of lasagna, Monday’s lunch at the ONEGeneration senior center on Victory Boulevard. Few at ONEGeneration seemed excited about the program, which will provide federal subsidies to seniors, the disabled and those with end-stage renal disease to help pay for prescription drugs. Those eligible can begin registering for the program today, with benefits starting Jan. 1. “This was designed to encourage a lot of choice.” The Center for Healthcare Rights, a state-designated Medicare counseling center, has been flooded with phone calls seeking advice on the new program. The center has a one-month backlog of calls, meaning Medicare recipients won’t get a return phone call until mid-December. “Can you imagine a spreadsheet on something like this?” said Sandy Risdon, program manager at the Center for Healthcare Rights. “You’d have to roll it on a picnic table. “Folks who are on the Internet have it a little easier, but most seniors are not on the Internet. Picking a plan is going to be more difficult without Internet access.” Her center is looking for volunteers for its peer-counseling program to help ease the backlog of calls, Risdon said. At the Jewish Home for the Aging in Reseda, administrators have been holding a series of seminars to explain the program to residents. “Everyone is talking about it here,” said resident Ella Kalan, 95. “I imagine the home will try to figure out what’s best. I’m not really sure yet.” At ONEGeneration, Ross’ lunch table offered a glimpse of what seniors think about the Medicare program. Charles Reinhart, 85, likes his current plan from AARP, which is moderately priced and easily understandable, he said. Harry Goldstein, 68, plans to stick to his Veterans Administration plan, which covers the $700-per-month price tag for hepatitis medication. Al Rabinowitz has made it to age 95 with little to no medication and doesn’t plan to start using medicine now. “I’ll just drop dead,” he said with a laugh. “That’s the easiest way to deal with it.” Only Ross planned to enroll in the program, and she was confused and upset about it. She plans to meet with a counselor to get more information. The 25 percent at the table who plan to enroll matches the nationwide ratio, Cheevers said. The program targets seniors who don’t have any other insurance that covers prescription drugs. About 75 percent of those eligible for the plan already have prescription drug coverage, Cheevers said. “Over time, people will become more familiar with this and they’ll learn how to navigate it,” he said. “If you don’t have drug coverage now, though, it’s worth sitting down and studying this.” Those eligible for Medicare have until May 15 to enroll. If they wait until after that date, they must pay a 1 percent penalty for every month after the date – which means if they wait five years, they’ll have to pay 60 percent more than the plan’s premium. Anyone who is eligible but has private insurance doesn’t have to enroll. If they lose the private insurance, they can enroll in Medicare at that time without paying the penalty, Cheevers said. “How many people will really benefit?” Risdon said. “I don’t think we know that now. A lot of this is going to sort itself out. (The program) was really designed for someone who doesn’t have any other options for drug coverage. In Los Angeles County, that’s not a huge number of people.” Josh Kleinbaum, (818) 713-3669 [email protected] MEDICARE HELP Registration begins today for Medicare’s new prescription-drug program, which means senior citizens in Los Angeles County must choose from among 34 plans. Here are issues to consider: Current plan: If you have drug coverage now, you probably don’t need to use the Medicare plan. Check your current coverage and see whether it is better than Medicare. Fees: Check for monthly deductibles and co-payments, as well as coverage gaps – known as the “Doughnut Hole.” Drugs: Not all plans cover every drug, so make sure your medication is covered. Pharmacies: Certain pharmacies accept only certain plans. Make sure a local pharmacy accepts your plan of choice. Need help? Here are some resources: Internet: Phone: (800) MEDICARE Center for Health Care Rights, 520 S. Lafayette Park Place, Suite 214, (213) 383-4519. 160Want local news?Sign up for the Localist and stay informed Something went wrong. Please try again.subscribeCongratulations! You’re all set!last_img read more